Playing the field
is a whole lot of fun, but so is being in a serious relationship --
provided that it's with the right woman. But how do you know if she
really is the right woman for you?
Some women posses
traits that are so wonderful, that if you catch her, hold on to her
for dear life! You dont want to run the risk of having some
other woman swoop down and steal her away from you.
So - what are the traits of wonderful women?
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while --
like if she's had a bad day -- it's great to be the nurturer. But
if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after
you, she will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which
is a surefire way to get you running for the nearest exit. On the
other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions; can
stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally; and is
able to enjoy time away from you (while still missing you, of course)
then she must be a great girlfriend.
intelligent, yet not pompous
The beautiful bimbo routine can only last a few nights, my friends...
it gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet you at an intellectual
level is a total turn-on. Instead of being the one in total control,
you'll find yourself trying to figure out whats really going
on in that brain of hers.
An intelligent woman
will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes -- she won't
let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to
talk about when youre not, er, otherwise occupied.
is a great turn on, if she is abusive (always right) and gives the
impression that she is superior, all the sexy deep conversations that
you may have with her can become ugly shows of superiority. A real
woman knows better than to berate others, to make herself feel above
A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance,
if you're the hardcore leather type and she's the dainty lingerie
type, well, that could be a problem if you are both not open to experimenting.
The two of you have to be on the same page -- or she at least has
to be willing to expand her sexual horizons from time to time.
beautiful/handsome and confident
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A
great girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also
for herself. She dresses well, always looks her best and has the confidence
and pride in how she carries herself and her appearance.
respects you and protects you!
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you and be protective of
you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't necessarily
agree with what you're saying. And, again, she never tries to demean
or belittle you in any way, shape, or form.
lets you be a free
Do not -- I repeat -- do not get involved with a woman who tries to
get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists
that you give up poker night with your girlies. You will end up resenting
her more than you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be all of
the aspects that make you- you!
She has to understand
that two people whom are committed to each other grow seperately but
together. And of course, you should have the same considerations for
There is nothing worse than a nag!
A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She
knows when to speak-up and when to let it slide. You don't want a
girlfriend who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in
the sink occasionally.
However, if you
live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and
she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for disaster.
This is a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a great
She gets along with friends & family
Whether you have family nearby or you consider your friends your family,
a great girlfriend will not only help your brother in the kitchen,
listen to your dad's stories, and hang out with your friends, she
will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the
most important people in your life. And she won't try to get you to
ditch your best buds.
She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and
not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely
hang on to her. A woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find.
Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying habits that their
mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be
able to cope with these.
Another way to know
if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and
treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem
to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care about
what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees
you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you
makes her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.
She makes you want to be a better woman
Stop making that face... Any lesbian who has a great girlfriend or
wife will tell you that she makes her want to be a better person.
She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you
suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself
trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about
your motivation for doing so. It could be love.
So, you say... you
already have her.....?
So, if this list seems to describe your current flame, you, my friend,
are styling. In fact, you are probably the envy of all of your friends,
even if they tease you for losing your status as "the player."
However, if the
woman you are dating is more like the polar opposite, then I don't
think that getting serious with her would be in your best interest
-- but you knew that already, didn't you?